Resolve Conflict and Find Peace and Hope with Adult Children
Strategies and Conversations that Work
- Marriage, Family & Relationships
- Publisher: Moody Publishers
- Published: 2026
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Publisher's Description
No one said it would be this complicated... or hard... or painful. But there's real hope—and help. Parents envision harmonious, loving relationships with their kids as they grow into adulthood. But for many parents, this doesn't happen, and it's deeply disappointing. Many parent–adult child relationships are marked by tension, grief, and anger. While there are scores of books dedicated to parenting kids, there is a scarcity of help for parents who want to love and relate well to their adult children. In Resolve Conflict and Find Peace and Hope with Adult Children, Dr. Kathy Koch shares biblical wisdom and practical instruction so these divinely given relationships can grow and heal. Readers explore: what adult children need from their parents—taken from research and a survey how we may be hurting instead of helping the danger of assumptions and unrealistic expectations how to work toward God-honoring communication how to offer yourself—and your kids—grace, mercy, and understanding complications caused by marriage, in-laws, and grandchildren how to grieve the loss of dreams how to successfully navigate a child moving back home when to assist with finances and when to refrain how to faithfully handle hot topics the heartache of a prodigal child the importance of hope, prayer support, and godly counsel This essential guidebook shows readers how to navigate real pain so they can love and guide their adult children. What's the key to healthy relationships with your children? You don't have to keep wandering in the dark. This resource provides real hope, sharing proven strategies for less conflict and more peace.
Endorsements (10)
“Dr. Kathy Koch has written the book I wish I'd had twenty years ago. As someone who has walked through the heartache of parenting wayward children, I know the crushing weight of watching your adult child make choices that break your heart. If you're longing for a genuine connection with your adult child and peace for your own heart, this book offers insight and guidance to help you succeed and find hope.”
“Dr. Kathy Koch has written a timely, grace-filled, and desperately needed guide for parents navigating one of the most tender seasons of life—shepherding adult children. Resolve Conflict and Find Peace and Hope with Adult Children is honest without being harsh, biblical without being legalistic, and practical in ways that actually help real families. In her usual style, Dr. Kathy offers wisdom, humility, and hope—calling parents to personal growth while reminding them that God is still at work, even when relationships feel strained or broken. This is a book I'll be recommending often, especially to parents who are committed to seeing relationships with their young adult children healed and healthy.”
“When you held your baby in your arms, I'm guessing you did not envision a future with conflict, either minor or major. Yet discord between adult children and their parents is not uncommon. Dr. Kathy shows us how a temporary challenge or an ongoing negative pattern can be effectively addressed. Her words, filled with encouragement and wisdom, provide tender guidance along with practical ways to respond to those heartbreaking struggles. It is possible to repair, restore, or reset your precious relationship. If you are the parent of an adult child, this book is for you!”
“Navigating relationships with our adult children can be tricky. In fact, issues related to this topic rank among the most common questions we receive here at Focus on the Family. I'm thankful my friend Dr. Kathy Koch has written this wise and highly practical book as a means of coming alongside moms and dads who want to nurture and preserve a healthy relationship with their adult children.”
“As I'm reading my friend Kathy Koch's new book, Resolve Conflict and Find Peace and Hope with Adult Children, I couldn't stop thinking, I sure wish my mom could have read this when we were young parents—it sure would have made our relationship better. Wait—I sure wish I had read this when my kids were young parents—it sure would have made our relationship better! I really needed the wisdom this book offers then, and I still need it today. The parent-adult child relationship has great potential to provide either some of the greatest joys and satisfaction in life, or some of the greatest pain, doesn't it? And then, when grandchildren arrive, the family bond—or lack of it—becomes even more critical. Yet little is written to address this critical relationship. Dr. Koch's practical wisdom, based solidly on biblical principles, moves this book to the top tier of my 'Grandparents and Parents Must Read' list. Kathy Koch, your wisdom astounds me once again. This has my highest endorsement; thanks for your amazing contribution to healthy, God-honoring families!”
“Children don't come with a manual. Not even when they'readults. As the father of four adult children, I needed this book. Dr. Kathy writes with such compassion that I feel set free from the guilt of not being a 'perfect' parent. I'm especially grateful for the wise "how to say it" tips. I'm going to recommend it to all the parents our ministry has worked with over the years. I know it will be a treasure to them as they navigate the joys and complexities that relationships with adult children bring.”
“This is the book many parents of adult children have been longing for—warm, honest, and extremely practical. Kathy helps you trade anxiety and over-involvement for maturity and peace by meeting your own core needs in God and community, then relating to your adult children from overflow rather than neediness. She gives language and tools that actually work—owning defensiveness, checking the 'story I'm telling myself,' making amends, and choosing hope even when reconciliation is uncertain. Most of all, she points you to the freedom of release: trusting God's mercy and timing, while staying lovingly present and appropriately influential.”
“As a mental health professional, I wholeheartedly endorse this book and guarantee it will support your goal to be a wise parent who interacts with your adult children in proactive ways. Dr. Kathy comes alongside as a bold yet tender teacher who provides a road map for navigating complex family relationships with biblical truth wrapped in compassionate care and clear directives. I plan to recommend this book to my clients as a transformative resource to lead them toward relational health, wholeness, healing, and flourishing.”
“If you're a parent who aches for closeness with an adult child and you keep replaying what you wish you'd handled differently, this book is for you. In Resolve Conflict and Find Peace and Hope with Adult Children, Dr. Kathy Koch brings Scripture and sound counsel to the hard conversations, the complicated dynamics, and the grief that can come with this season. This book is a guide that puts hope back in your hands for a healthier relationship and a clearer path forward.”
“Dr. Kathy Koch has done it again! She's provided another phenomenal resource that supplies wisdom during difficult decisions and helpful tools for conflict resolution. Parenting adult kids can be complex and confusing. As the parenting role morphs and changes, it's crucial to discover what adult kids need and desire from their parents. My favorite aspect of RCAFP is how Dr. Koch adequately prepares the parent with practical role-playing scenarios, which illustrates a way to humbly communicate without sounding condescending or critical. She furnishes statements that encourage the parent while distributing encouragement and dignity to the adult child. RCAFP takes the reader into this multifaceted season of life with clarity of purpose and God's compassionate grace. It's practical. It's relevant. It is a must-read!”
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