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Secrets of Sex and Marriage

  • World Religions
  • Marriage, Family & Relationships
  • Publisher: Bethany House (Baker Publishing Group)
  • Published: 2026

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Endorsements (26)

“Intimacy is such an important part of a marital union. Fully researched and biblically sound, Secrets of Sex and Marriage is a great tool for any married couple to read together and grow closer in their intimate life. I highly recommend this insightful book to all married couples.”

Gary Chapman

“Secrets of Sex and Marriage uniquely identifies with the readers in their journey to a healthy marriage and sex life. Michael and Shaunti wonderfully blend helpful information validated by research with practical application. After forty-seven years as sexual therapists and educators, we learned useful new facts and found this a very enjoyable read.”

Dr. Clifford and Joyce Penner

“A book like this only comes around every so many decades. This is a non-opinion book, a sound resource to guide both therapists and couples. The language is simple and rich with life examples. As therapists who work with minority populations, we cannot be more excited to share such a transformational tool.”

Jorge and Danisa Suarez

“The secrets are out! Feldhahn and Sytsma have mined the feedback of more than 5,300 individuals to provide the clearest picture of marital sexuality we’ve ever had. This book is an incredible gift to couples, families, the church, and the world.”

Christopher and Rachel McCluskey

“As the pastor of a large multicultural church, I’ve counseled many people from all walks of life. . . . A great marriage is a universal desire. And so is a great intimate life. My friend Shaunti Feldhahn and Dr. Michael Sytsma have researched and created a quick-read book that will get you to both!”

Miles McPherson

“Anything and everything that Shaunti and Jeff write we read and share with others. Their research and insights are always so practical and life-changing. This book . . . will bring life and hope to the very foundation of your marriage. Fasten your seatbelt and prepare for some real wow revelations!”

Dave and Ann Wilson

“Married couples reach out to Focus on the Family regularly seeking help with the sexual aspect of their relationships—which is why I’m especially thankful for this new book by Shaunti Feldhahn and Dr. Michael Sytsma. Through extensive research and their own keen insights into this important topic, Shaunti and Michael show couples that it’s more than possible to achieve a mutually satisfying sex life that contributes to a healthy, vibrant marriage.”

Jim Daly

“This book is a gem! Writing succinctly and in an engaging style, Shaunti and Michael offer couples valuable insights and actionable steps to improve their marriage and their sexual relationship. I will definitely use this book with my clients and recommend it to friends!”

Debra L. Taylor

“Secrets of Sex and Marriage is one of the most relevant marriage resources on the market. With eye-opening research on modern sex, biblical foundations, stirring real-life illustrations, and practical applications on every page, this book can bring renewal to any marriage both inside and outside the bedroom. Every couple (including us) can benefit from this book!”

Dave and Ashley Willis

“A lot of people guess at the What, Why, and How of sex. But guessing doesn’t work. Secrets of Sex and Marriage wraps the authors’ combined professional experience around solid new research that will put guessing aside and make way for a more intimate marriage and sexual relationship. Read it!”

Ron and Nan Deal

“Using research you can trust, Shaunti and Michael invite couples to a greater level of understanding. . . . This book unlocks the prevailing secrets and misunderstandings that keep couples at odds with each other, inviting them to experience a new understanding, empathy, and pleasure.”

Gary Thomas

“This book contains a tremendous combination of insight, research, and real-life practical help! Without question, it will inform, encourage, and instruct couples as well as those who minster to them.”

Dr. Juli Slattery

“Secrets of Sex and Marriage is real talk! We mean real talk—about the awkward and sometimes difficult conversations about sex, even in marriage. Whether you want to fan the flame of passion or spark a deeper desire for your spouse, this book is your go-to resource!”

Apryl and Ozzie Ortiz

“Secrets of Sex and Marriage is an eye-opening, useful, and much-needed tool for every counselor, pastor, and leader who works with marriages. . . . A must read!”

Tim Clinton

“Shaunti and Michael write with great wisdom and care. Biblically sound and evidence-based, [this book] is a trusted resource for pastors, counselors, and therapists who want to help couples in this sacred part of life.”

Ted Cunningham

“Anything and everything that Shaunti and Jeff write we read and share with others. Their research and insights are always so practical and life-changing. This book . . . will bring life and hope to the very foundation of your marriage. Fasten your seatbelt and prepare for some real wow revelations!”

Ann Wilson

“The secret is out! We read this book together and agree that Shaunti and Michael expertly share practical sex and marriage truths that every couple needs.”

Montell Jordan

“The secret is out! We read this book together and agree that Shaunti and Michael expertly share practical sex and marriage truths that every couple needs.”

Kristin Jordan

“Secrets of Sex and Marriage is one of the most relevant marriage resources on the market. With eye-opening research on modern sex, biblical foundations, stirring real-life illustrations, and practical applications on every page, this book can bring renewal to any marriage both inside and outside the bedroom. Every couple (including us) can benefit from this book!”

Ashley Willis

“A lot of people guess at the What, Why, and How of sex. But guessing doesn’t work. Secrets of Sex and Marriage wraps the authors’ combined professional experience around solid new research that will put guessing aside and make way for a more intimate marriage and sexual relationship. Read it!”

Nan Deal

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